We get very little wisdom from success, you know.
A facebook quiz of all things, taught me more about myself than I realised. It was a simple “either or” question:
“Forgiveness or Revenge?”
This time last year, I would have answered revenge. In fact, I believe I did write revenge on a few of those personality questionnaires. I took a quiz yesterday, and for the first time in my life, without thinking about “looking good” instinctively wrote “forgiveness” in the answer box. Reading it through this morning, I felt a little shocked at my own answer and the realisation that it is true.
I’ve had a terrible 12 months where quite frankly, nothing in my personal life has come good. I lost my job, my money, was crashed into by a van, my family fell apart (we’re at 16 weeks of non talking, by the way), my father was off work with depression – it hasn’t exactly been the year i was looking for.
And yet, it’s given me the most enlightening experience – being on the dole gave me a taste of humility that i would have had nowhere else, and i learnt that some people have attitude only because they are angry at everything else, not you.
I could have taken offence at everything that has happened, really brought up a storm – but through it all, i just cant be bothered. It’s better to give a second chance and forget the bad.
Secretly, i’m qite proud of myself.
